Who am I ?
My name is Ben.
I am a qualified Electrical Engineer, have an MBA, have done some very cool things and pretty much thought I had my stuff in a pile.
My separation and divorce, whilst in hindsight, liberating, was a time of terrible pain, anger and self doubt.
I had such great ideas and was full of love when we married. I worked hard to build the relationship and make life better for us. We made beautiful children and found happiness with each other.
Life though, can sometimes grow people in different directions, slowly and inescapably, this was definitely the case with us.
When I looked at it, in the end, my Marriage was a train-wreck. It was my fault, it was her fault, it was our fault. It was not good for our children it was not good for us.
I felt guilty, alone and lost. I didn't know what to even read to find out what to do next, let alone who I could talk to.
I wanted to fix it all straight away and to stop the emotional turmoil in me, the pain my children were in and the seething rage I had inside. I even wanted to stop the anguish my children's mother was clearly in.
Things deteriorated but I had a Few Good Men.
I didn't see them every day, or even every week, but I did see them, and more importantly, I spoke to them about what it was like for me.
I was lucky and it got me thinking......knowing where you're at and what to do can make a big difference.
It may be difficult. It may feel gut wrenching. You may be at a complete loss as to what to do next. Worst of all you may feel the world is against you, including your friends and even family - Never Ever Forget - you will be able to reclaim your life - Everything is going to be OK.
That's my story.
I am a qualified Electrical Engineer, have an MBA, have done some very cool things and pretty much thought I had my stuff in a pile.
My separation and divorce, whilst in hindsight, liberating, was a time of terrible pain, anger and self doubt.
I had such great ideas and was full of love when we married. I worked hard to build the relationship and make life better for us. We made beautiful children and found happiness with each other.
Life though, can sometimes grow people in different directions, slowly and inescapably, this was definitely the case with us.
When I looked at it, in the end, my Marriage was a train-wreck. It was my fault, it was her fault, it was our fault. It was not good for our children it was not good for us.
I felt guilty, alone and lost. I didn't know what to even read to find out what to do next, let alone who I could talk to.
I wanted to fix it all straight away and to stop the emotional turmoil in me, the pain my children were in and the seething rage I had inside. I even wanted to stop the anguish my children's mother was clearly in.
Things deteriorated but I had a Few Good Men.
I didn't see them every day, or even every week, but I did see them, and more importantly, I spoke to them about what it was like for me.
I was lucky and it got me thinking......knowing where you're at and what to do can make a big difference.
It may be difficult. It may feel gut wrenching. You may be at a complete loss as to what to do next. Worst of all you may feel the world is against you, including your friends and even family - Never Ever Forget - you will be able to reclaim your life - Everything is going to be OK.
That's my story.
